Lack of self-trust is a common condition for many people. The conviction of not having intellectual and physical capacities is an unfavourable psychological condition, leading the individual to avoid risks and feed on a vicious circle of self-sabotaging thoughts.
Are you the kind of person who needs to consult with others to make a decision? People without self-trust never make decisions.
If you are curious and want to know more about this subject, this article is for you! Read this post to the end and get inspired! 😝
When faced with a problem or challenge, the first action we all take is to analyze whether we can deal with the situation successfully or not.
If our self-esteem hesitates, the fear of not being successful becomes a block to our possible actions and reactions.
“A mind that trusts itself is light on its feet.”Nathaniel Branden
What does self-trust mean?
Self-trust is when you believe that you have the ability to manage yourself in any area of life (work, relationship, study, etc.). When a person believes in herself, trusts her abilities, sees something good, it also strengthens self-esteem.
Self-esteem and self-trust are linked; one influences the other. Those who believe in themselves also have good self-esteem.
On the other hand, self-esteem is about the feelings of love and respect that a person has for herself. That feeling remains steadfast, regardless of success or failure and the ups and downs of life.
Self-trust is not a genetic condition; it changes over time. In some stages of life, we can feel very confident in ourselves. At the same time, at other times, we can completely lose confidence in ourselves.
This can happen because it is the experiences that generate emotions that might increase or decrease self-trust.
For example, this can happen in the event of a divorce. After a long emotional investment, the break can make us feel unable to maintain a bond with our partner and undermine trust.
How to develop self-trust?
To increase your confidence, you must first change your self-image, the way you think about yourself. Self-pity, negative mentality, fear are negative elements; try to eliminate them. First, learn to love yourself, consider yourself important, do things and learn.
You may not believe it, but I have good news, self-confidence is not innate; it is one of the many mental qualities that we can develop, strengthen and improve by applying the right strategies. Here they are👉
I) Get out of the comfort zone.
Leave the comfort zone and try new things. You will boost your self-trust. Start by setting small goals and prepare to achieve them.. Start by setting small goals and prepare to achieve them.
The athlete, before starting any competition, prepares physically and mentally every day for years. Gradually, he acquires more and more competence until the muscle of self-trust is built. Finally, he is ready to compete with others.
We can also train and reach our goal. It doesn’t matter if it’s small. Remember that it is a training session; each victory will reinforce your self-trust because you can do what you set out to do.
Find the area you want to improve and apply the time it takes to improve. Set realistic goals that can stimulate and pressure you to do your best. This way, you will be focused on a specific goal, which can be as varied as a vacation, learn to ride a bike, learn new recipes and much more. So what are you waiting for?
II) Write down what you’re good at.
Like me, many women perform multiple tasks throughout their life; think of the management of all matters related to the family or social relationships. How about the countless hours spent as a therapist for relatives and friends. All of those are precious knowledge. Don’t underestimate your skills. Write down all the things you know how to do.
People without a self-trust focus on the things they are unable to do. First, these people focus on the things they don’t know how to do and completely forget all their skills.
People without self-trust ignore the secrets of successful people. Self-confidence is the first secret of those people. They achieve their goals because they maximize their “talents” and minimize their limits. Obviously, we can improve, but the point is – don’t focus too much on your weaknesses.
Value your skills and knowledge and improve the aspects necessary to achieve your goals. If you want to overcome the doubt and insecurity you have about yourself, all you have to do is take action. In this way, you will prove to yourself that you are strong, reliable and capable.
III) Be your best friend.
Be your best friend; try to build a good relationship with yourself. As a good friend, strive to treat yourself with love, suspend judgment and self-criticism.
Having negative thoughts and being self-critical is very common in insecure people, but feeding them, memorizing them or even chasing them worsens the quality of life and contaminates our image of ourselves.
Change your internal dialogue, stop telling yourself that you: “I can’t …”, “I’m stupid ..” “I don’t deserve …”
Replace negative thoughts with small goals and strive to achieve them.
IV) Keep the promises you make to yourself.
Think with me, would you trust a person who promises and does not deliver what he promised ??? So, how can you think of trusting yourself … 🤷🤷
Try to be whole; say what you think and do what you think and say. Commit to doing what you promised. Only then will your thoughts become a reality, which will increase your self-trust every day.
We are not all the same; each one has different talents and abilities. Learn to listen to your inner voice to understand your talents and how to use them best.